“Laugh and the world will Laugh with you, cry and you will
cry alone”
This Sunday while reading an article on Vulnerability in the
Life section of “TOI”, it really made me get into my thinking hat, with every
statement and experience shared by celebrities and crème de la crème of society
citing how it is a sign of weakness to demonstrate your vulnerable side unwrapped.
But why is it so? Why are we reticent of projecting our
inner feelings when it comes to pain, heartbreak or sorrow, yes as the article
mentioned it surely is to do with the way our upbringing has happened in this
suppressed society, where we were told not to display vulnerable side when it
comes to emotions like ache, crying and gloom?
Isn’t pain a kind of emotion as happiness, anger, fear,
excitement is? Then why such prejudices towards showing tears in public, how it
can be a sign of weakness?
Do people want to love only if we are Cheerful all the
time or so we just display the happy side of ours? Are we so involved with
our set of problems, grief or pain that we do not want to pay any heed to what
others have to share? Isn’t it why we are witnessing many suicidal deaths as we
do not have time to do a conversation- a real tête-à-tête?
And on top of it being ‘Judgmental’ is truly a disease which
is spread across in all of us, succinctly to the core, where actually what we
do is be a “Mental Judge of certain situations or people they don’t know much
about” In the times of social media, Someone
updates their status saying ‘ I’m Lonely “ and we quickly jump to various
concluding statements from, “Attention seeker” to “more you run after people,
people will leave you lonely”, from “arre, enjoy and be content in what you
have’ to “Be strong”.
But do we see, that the person is not saying that they
aren’t happy, being Lonely can be perceived in so many ways. Without being
judgmental, how many would try and start a dialogue with that person. Ahh! But
we don’t have time for a “conversation” or “Compassion” but yes, we have all
the time of being “Mental-Judge”
The chronicle of Corporate World, analogous story all
across, Someone going through a difficult time in personal life will have their
professional life getting affected for sure, so they are graciously requested
to take a break and come back when they are “in good health “or somehow the hermit
is just screwed to the level that they leave the organization on their own.
In School/colleges similar saga of agony, A student scoring
low marks, or not to smart as per the hip-hop generation will be negated to
being nonexistent; sobs of their heart often not heard ends into ending of a
precious young life or some grueling crime or mishap.
What as a society are we trying to prove, to remain calm on
the surface and let the tsunamis blow you away internally?
My 3 year old is teaching me life again, I'm sure as most of 3 year
kiddos do, he cries when his best friend gets upset with him for not sharing
toy, he displays pain with being as cranky as possible, He gets sad when he is
not allowed to watch Chhota Bheem and trust me cuddling, a peck on his cheek
and a small conversation is what changes everything.
:) So we know the answers deep down, just afraid to practice them.
Summing up in these words of Einstein,
“A human being is a part of
the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He
experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the
rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind
of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a
few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison
by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the
whole of nature in its beauty.”
― Albert Einstein
― Albert Einstein
